Category Archives: Children

The Enforcers

It was an ordinary Saturday afternoon. My daughter sat next to me on the sofa in our living room, focused on a playing a game on her iPod. Out of the corner of my eye I noticed how she was sitting-legs loose and open. Sharp words formed in my mind: close your legs and sit […]

Black Woman and Child

Being a mother is one of my greatest joys in life. My precocious daughter leaves me speechless on a regular basis, and I look forward to our discussions. When I pick her up from after school care and see the happiness at my return reflected in her eyes the stress of my workday dissipates. With […]

Shades of Blackness: Tisha

“Chile, what’s wrong with you? What you over there cryin fo?”, my Grandma asked. “It’s the kids at school”, I replied through my tears, “they keep picking on me!” “For what?” “For being black, for being dark…” “Aww girl”, Grandma said as she sucked her teeth, “girl please! I told you how it was in […]

Makes Me Wanna Holler

Over the past three weeks, outrage over the murder of Trayvon Martin has swept the nation. The Department of Justice is now involved,  President Obama has addressed the issue and millions have mobilized. Though the facts have slowly come to the surface, one thing is undisputable: the life of a young boy was tragically and […]

The Sacred and The Profane: ‘Fast’

To start this series exploring my encounters and thoughts on sexuality and religion, I must begin at the age when both issues began to matter to me.From the fall of 1990 to the summer of 1991, three events took place, two of which would alter the course of my life. In November 1990, my mother […]


It was a regular Sunday afternoon. I think I must have been seventeen or eighteen years old at the time. As was the custom on days when we had 3pm service, the women of my church had prepared lunch. Now most of  these ladies were either from the South or raised by Southern women, so […]

Eeny, Meeny, Miny, Moe

*DISCLAIMER: I am well aware that some Christians do not subscribe to rigid Calvinism. If you belong to a denomination that has a different from of it or has abandoned it altogether, there is no need to get your draws in a bunch.  Earlier this evening, I attended a concert at my daughters’ school for […]


The nail that sticks out gets hammered down-Japanese proverb Earlier today, a comment was left on one of my recent posts that really set me off. In response to my criticism of the treatment  of women in the Baptist environment that I grew up in, MInTheGap writes: Joining a church body is much the same, […]