Category Archives: Race

“Ya’ll Must Have Forgot”: Historical Amnesia and Silly Memes

Before I went to bed last night the attached meme surfaced in my timeline on Twitter. I’ve had the misfortune of seeing this ignorance before but apparently it is making the rounds again. There are a number of troubling aspects about this meme. However in this post I will focus on only one: the way […]

Chile BYE: A Farewell to Online Misogynoir

I stared at the link on my screen, debating whether I should click play. The video, titled “Why I Don’t Date Black Women”, was sent to me by my favorite cousin. He is my only relative who shares my views on race, so we frequently build on the subject. As a black man he shares […]

Black Woman and Child

Being a mother is one of my greatest joys in life. My precocious daughter leaves me speechless on a regular basis, and I look forward to our discussions. When I pick her up from after school care and see the happiness at my return reflected in her eyes the stress of my workday dissipates. With […]

Dark Like Us

When I was a little girl I was blissfully unaware that my skin tone was supposed to be a negative thing. In my eyes my skin was dark and comely, like that of the people I loved the most. I was dark like my Mama, who I idolized, watching with adoration as she lined her […]

U-N-I-T-Y Part II

A note to me readers: It has been over a month since I’ve updated DimunitiveDiva. I truly apologize for the delay, as I did not intent to allow so much time to elapse before posting the second part of my Unity series. A sudden increase in my hours at work has kept me from devoting […]

Shades of Blackness: ‘And It Don’t Stop’

I thank all of you who have followed this series on Colorism and listened to my journey. The response I’ve received has been truly overwhelming. I started this blog about two and a half years ago, and prior to addressing this topic I had twenty eight subscribers. In the short period of time that has […]

Shades of Blackness: No (Dark-Skinned) Blacks Allowed, Part II

In yesterday’s post I discussed the reaction I received from my African American boyfriend’s social circle when they learned he was dating a dark-skinned woman. As unpleasant as that incident was, however, I wouldn’t let it dissuade me from my attempt to meet and date an AA man who was not stuck on Colorism. In […]

Shades of Blackness: Back In The Day

*Note: the names in this blog post are pseudonyms It was September 1985, my first day of school. My mother had washed and pressed my dress the night before but woke early that day to curl my hair. Once I was ready I stood at attention, ready for her to examine me. Stepping closer she […]