Category Archives: Relationships

Love is Blind: 2001 Part II

We are often sure of how we will react to a situation-until we find ourselves actually in it. Prior to a man putting his hands on me I had ’nuff chat. Had you asked what I would to if faced with domestic violence  a year prior, I would have defiantly told you that I would never accept […]

Love is Blind: 2001 Part I

“Hey, yo I don’t even know you and I hate you See all I know is that my girlfriend used to date you How would you feel if she held you down and raped you? Tried and tried, but she never could escape you…”-Eve Doonk-dada-doonk-dada-doonk-doonk. It was an early Saturday morning in 2001,  and my Nokia […]

Love and Happiness…

While clearing my Yahoo inbox this morning, I came across an invite to a seminar that a local Muslim organization was hosting regarding marriage and love. I opened the email and reading it brought certain memories flooding back. I can remember hanging out at a sister’s home late one night. Earlier in the day we’d […]

How To Respect

As stated in my previous entry, I’m ambivalent when it comes to hip-hop, the music that I came of age to. I’m not a fan of the more commercial fare that passes for hip-hop nowadays and generally do not pay attention to what is on the radio. So I was very surprised when I found […]


Two weeks ago, I had a discussion with a sister who had also started questioning Islam. She has not left the faith though, just taking time to re-evaluate things. Even though she doesn’t yet wear the scarlet letter of full-fledged apostasy, some have already started to treat her that way. As I listened to her […]

Casualty of Conscience

When one’s views on religion are so far from the norm, relating to others and discussing the issue can be very awkward and uncomfortable. As someone who identifies as agnostic, I’m well aware of the fact that, in the larger scheme of things, I do not fit in with my species. There are roughly two […]

Reasons, Part I

When I first converted to Sunni Islam, I did not take the time to deeply ponder all of my reasons for doing so. Those around me had their own opinions on why I converted. My conversion was generally attributed to mental illness or an identity crisis. I spent so much time defending myself and arguing […]

Race In The Ummah-Denial

For practicing Muslims and apostates alike, simply trying to broach the subject of racism can be a frustrating endeavor. Some Muslims can’t(or won’t) admit that race is even an issue among Muslims. Their line of reasoning usually goes like this:   The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu wa’salaam, was not a racist; There is nothing explicitly […]