Tag Archives: abused women

Love is Blind: Spring 2003

*And we now continue with our scheduled blog series* “I don’t even know you and I’d kill you myself You played with her like a doll and put her back on the shelf Wouldn’t let her go to school and better herself She had a baby by your ass and you ain’t giving no help…” […]

Love is Blind: The Next Episodes

In my Love is Blind series this far I’ve explored abusive situations in my relationships and those of my close friends. I’ve also shared my family background regarding the issue, to demonstrate the climate that I grew up in and how it shaped my perceptions of violence against women. The latter half of the series begins […]

Love is Blind: 1991

Like Lisa before her, Clara was young when she started dealing with my Uncle Philip. Clara was a senior in high school;my Uncle was in his late twenties by then. Clara was actually my uncle’s side chick, and when Lisa left him she was delighted to finally be the only woman in my Uncle’s life. […]

Love is Blind: 1985-1991

“What kind of love from a *****would black your eye? What kind of love from a ***** every night make you cry? What kind of love from a *****make you wish he would die? I mean shit he bought you things and gave you diamond rings But them things wasn’t worth none of the pain that […]

Love is Blind: 2001 Part II

We are often sure of how we will react to a situation-until we find ourselves actually in it. Prior to a man putting his hands on me I had ’nuff chat. Had you asked what I would to if faced with domestic violence  a year prior, I would have defiantly told you that I would never accept […]

Love is Blind: 2001 Part I

“Hey, yo I don’t even know you and I hate you See all I know is that my girlfriend used to date you How would you feel if she held you down and raped you? Tried and tried, but she never could escape you…”-Eve Doonk-dada-doonk-dada-doonk-doonk. It was an early Saturday morning in 2001,  and my Nokia […]

Love is Blind: 1998

Tisha and Raquel were my closest friends. We met in middle school and all lived  in Seattle’s South End. Tisha and I were inseparable from the time we were eleven years old. Three years later Tisha and Raquel were assigned to the same high school as me, and we became a trio. We were content with […]

‘Love is Blind’-Introduction

Domestic Violence. Simply hearing the term is enough to rattle me. It is the horror that stalks our society, the boogeyman hiding in our closets. We pay lip service to denouncing it, but more often than not those words ring hollow. The abusers are absolved of their violence; the victims are blamed for being too […]