Tag Archives: friendship

December 21

Breakup to Makeup: Friendship and Loss

It seemed that serious at the time. In May 2011 I fell out with someone who had been my ace since elementary school.  It started out as an argument, and in and of itself that wasn’t a huge deal. In the two decades that we’d known each other we had disagreements. However conflict was rare […]

September 25

Just Like Music: “The Next Movement”, 1999

My eighteenth birthday in 1998 was definitely a milestone, but there wasn’t a major shift in life afterwards. I look back at my eighteen-year old self now and laugh, amused at the fact that I believed I was “grown”. The true burdens and responsibilities of adulthood were still far away for me. I continued to […]

September 23

Just Like Music: “No Morira”, 1997

In the late 80s and early 90s it was common to see fly young brothas rocking coordinated outfits and performing elaborate dance steps together. But by the time 1996 and 1997 rolled around the lively, colorful atmosphere that marked the hip-hop of my childhood was largely a distant memory. We girls were still dancing and grooving […]

September 22

Just Like Music:”Sittin’Up In My Room” 1996

In December 1995 the film adaptation of Terry McMillan’s bestseller Waiting to Exhale was released. There was much excitement and fanfare leading up to the release but I didn’t share it. The novel it was based on was critically acclaimed, but I was never too impressed by it. At the time I wondered if I […]

September 21

Just Like Music: “Back and Forth” 1994-Part II

In the first week of June 1994 my church planned to hold the dedication services for our new facility. Days before the dedication commenced I walked through the sanctuary, taking in the stained-glass windows and a pulpit large enough to accommodate ten ministers comfortably. The First Lady of my church, Sis. Wilson, stood at the […]

SKINFOLK

My previous post discussed the cultural differences that I observed in Tanzania. But that was then and this is now. Now it is 2014. I haven’t been outside the country again, and America’s unique dysfunctions on race continue to prevail and frustrate me. The things I’ve been told this week in particular have left me […]

Black and Brown-Conclusion

Nearly twenty-three years have elapsed since the day that the paths of two little girls of color crossed. Raquel and I have grown from our preteen years to adulthood together. Indeed at every high and low that we’ve faced we have been there for each other. When Raquel had her first child in 2003 I […]

Black and Brown, Part III

“Hola Daniella, please come in”, Wendy, Raquel’s Mom, said as I stepped through the door. It was spring 1995, the end of my freshman year in high school. A few months earlier Raquel’s family moved from the South End and bought a house in West Seattle. I was sad when Raquel first told me of the […]