Tag Archives: gender

December 28

Clearing The Path: On Girls, Education and Gratitude

In today’s blog I discuss how a novel on the lives of girls in rural parts of the developing world made me reflect on family tales from the paternal side of my child’s family & the need to recognize one’s privileges.

December 15

No Human Involved

November 23

Monsters Next Door: Confronting Sexual Abuse and Internalized Misogyny

On November 18th Medium published an opinion piece on why it is problematic to continue listening to and supporting R & B singer R. Kelly. In “It Is Not Okay to Listen to Accused Serial Rapist R. Kelly”  Nathan Slavik powerfully enunciates the allegations against Kelly, asking the reader to visualize  the ordeal of the […]

September 25

Act Like A Queen?

In today’s short vlog I share an observation inspired by both the season premiere of Scandal and my dealings with a particular sector of my community:  

September 15

Just Like Music: “I’ll Do for You”, 1991

As a child growing up in the 1980s I looked forward to watching ‘Soul Train’ every week. Simultaneously watching the moves of the dancers on the screen and the joy on my mama’s face as she sang along was my special treat. When she married my stepfather, a fellow sailor five years her junior, in […]

April 25

Leaving The Pity Pool: On Internalized Messages and Echo Chambers

When I was a teenager the mother of a close friend cautioned me about the dangers of swimming in pity pools. Even with that warning I made the mistake of entering one. Even worse was the fact that my pity pool was tied to my identity as an African-American woman. What should have served as […]

Mirror, Mirror

In the summer of 2001 I read a thought-provoking interview that singer Kelis gave to VIBE magazine. The cultural landscape in America was different. The Twin Towers were still standing. Britney Spears was still the reigning pop princess. YouTube, Twitter and Google were not part of our lives yet, and the mainstream media had no […]

Ridin’ and Dyin’: An Open Letter to African-American Men

I like to think of myself as a lover of African-American men. It’s hard not to. Indeed, pledging my love and allegiance to your plight is treated as a sacred tenet of being a conscious/intellectual African-American woman. My commitment to you is informed by both my awareness of our shared history in this nation and […]