Tag Archives: nostalgia

October 10

Just Like Music:”I’m Sprung”, June 2005

Somewhere between my freshman and sophomore year of high school I drafted the blueprint of my life. It looked like this: Attend and graduate from an HBCU by the age of 21; Meet a “good Black man” at said HBCU; Marry said “good Black man” at 25; Give birth to our first child at 28; Give […]

October 07

Just Like Music: “Where The Party At”, 2001

I wasn’t in Seattle the day I turned twenty-one years old and was unable to spend it with my friends. That didn’t sway my BFF Tisha. Within hours of my return from vacation in New York City in early August she called me. “Okay girl don’t make any plans for this weekend! We are going […]

September 25

Just Like Music: “The Next Movement”, 1999

My eighteenth birthday in 1998 was definitely a milestone, but there wasn’t a major shift in life afterwards. I look back at my eighteen-year old self now and laugh, amused at the fact that I believed I was “grown”. The true burdens and responsibilities of adulthood were still far away for me. I continued to […]

September 24

Just Like Music: “Still Not A Player” 1998

The incident with too much rum on New Year’s Eve aside, I entered 1998, the year I would graduate high school,well. And once my last semester of school started at the end of January it was smooth sailing. I had more than enough credits to graduate, so I only took two classes. My first was […]

September 23

Just Like Music: “No Morira”, 1997

In the late 80s and early 90s it was common to see fly young brothas rocking coordinated outfits and performing elaborate dance steps together. But by the time 1996 and 1997 rolled around the lively, colorful atmosphere that marked the hip-hop of my childhood was largely a distant memory. We girls were still dancing and grooving […]

September 22

Just Like Music:”Sittin’Up In My Room” 1996

In December 1995 the film adaptation of Terry McMillan’s bestseller Waiting to Exhale was released. There was much excitement and fanfare leading up to the release but I didn’t share it. The novel it was based on was critically acclaimed, but I was never too impressed by it. At the time I wondered if I […]

September 21

Just Like Music: “Back and Forth” 1994-Part II

In the first week of June 1994 my church planned to hold the dedication services for our new facility. Days before the dedication commenced I walked through the sanctuary, taking in the stained-glass windows and a pulpit large enough to accommodate ten ministers comfortably. The First Lady of my church, Sis. Wilson, stood at the […]

September 18

Just Like Music: “Back and Forth” 1994-Part I

The pessimism and moodiness that developed from being the child of an addict had settled into me by my thirteenth year. The Binge now seemed to be a permanent feature of life for my family. I reconciled myself to the fact that one day my mom wasn’t going to return after weeks of indulging her […]